Create memories11/7/2022 ![]() When my kids were little, we used to do this by creating a family Yearbook each year filled with important photos or ticket stubs or momentos. Revisiting memories as a family helps build a sense of family identity. And, secondly, by revisiting that memory to mark it as important (not-to-be-deleted) in your brain. You can help a memory to ‘stick’ by, firstly, a conscious decision at that moment to take it all in through your senses in as much detail as possible. But their wholesale erasing of me from their brains has certainly made me want to work a little harder at making memories with them. (Interestingly, they both named my birthday as one of their memorable moments due to an unplanned first-time-ever trip on the London Eye). But as we get older, we have to work harder to turn events into memories and to benefit from their happiness-inducing qualities.įor my teenagers, the novel and exciting things in their lives right now are all connected with friends/work/uni. We are doing so many things for the first time that we form very strong memories. Happy memories are an important ingredient in present happiness. They strengthen our sense of identity and purpose and bond our relationships. Why do memories matter? According to Meik Wiking (author of The Art of Making Memories), happy memories are essential to our mental health. And completely another thing to be absent from their memory banks entirely. And all of this after I had been waxing lyrical in The Sunday Times Magazine about the importance of using Christmas traditions to lay down family memories! It’s one thing to understand, intellectually, that you are no longer the focus of you teens’ attention. ”Īaagh! As if I hadn’t been desperately trying to get him to join in with family life for the whole year! The youngest cribbed two memories from his brother, made one up that I know he hated and concluded “We need to do more □. They could remember lots of great times, but none of them included family! In the end, the eldest came up with four rather vague memories (one of which actually happened in 2018 and the other was being dropped off at university – a double-edged sword of a family memory for sure!). ![]() I could see them wracking their memory banks for a single important event last year at which I was present. You might remember, a couple of years ago I asked them to write my New Year Resolutions for me with interesting results! This year, I asked them to come up with their five favourite family moments from last year.Īs usual, what I thought was a bright and clever idea taught me a salutary lesson in teenage priorities. ![]() But I do like to set my kids a bit of a challenge to mark the New Year. I’m not a huge fan of New Year Resolutions as I’m not convinced they lead to real change. And also, if I’m honest, a little fearful about how many more opportunities there will be (or won’t be) to make new family memories. What with the end of the decade and the departure of my eldest son for university, I’ve been somewhat preoccupied with holding onto memories of my kids as little ones. I have been thinking a lot about the importance of making memories. ![]()
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